round-tuitI love a good play on words and this is one is one of my favorites. The picture to the left is a round tuit. We’ve often heard it said, “I’ll get around to it”.  Well now you have one or at least a picture of one.

So what are you going to do now?  Are you still going to say, “I’ll get around to it tomorrow” or “I’ll get around to it next week” or “I’ll get around to it when I can”?  Procrastination is our enemy, I’ll do it tomorrow, I’ll start it tomorrow or I’ll finish it tomorrow should no longer be in our vocabulary.

God hasn’t called me to do everything but he called me to do something.  And He’s called me to do something now, not later.  Windows of opportunity are opened and closed but I believe some windows of opportunity open and close but God may not lock the window. Just because something seems hard, doesn’t mean it is. It just may appear to be.  Just like something may seem out of your reach, doesn’t mean it is.  It just may appear to be.  Just like at night when you are driving and your eyes play tricks on you.  Making things seem one way but they are something completely different.  Just like fear.  It’s false evidence appearing real.  Doesn’t mean it is real, it just seems that way for a moment.

Sometimes you just have to try.   He’s called me to be a mother and a wife. He’s called me to be a servant-leader. But also He’s called me to be a doer of his word. He’s called me to lead the youth. He’s called me to be the best employee I can be. I leave what is behind and I press toward the mark of the high calling of Jesus Christ. Just like Paul as he said on his deathbed, he fought a good fight he’s run his race. I want to be able to see my Savior smile. I want to look back over my life on my deathbed and say that I have finished the race I have completed the task that God set before me.

What is it that God has called you to? What is the task that He wants you to complete. Are you on that path? Are you on that roadway? Are you gaining the skills that you need for that task to be completed? It could be going to medical school. It could be becoming an engineer. It could be owning the gas station on the corner. It could be working at the dry cleaner. But whatever it is ,do it as working unto the Lord. And you will hear Him on that great day saying, “Well done, my child. Welcome. Come on in.”

What is is that  you’ve been procrastinating about  doing?  What is it that you’ve put off for way too long?  It could have been posting in your blog. (wonder who that could be?)  It could be having that hard conversation that’s needed with a loved one.  It could be as simple as getting rid of unneeded items in your house.  I’m a firm believer that busy people get more done.  I don’t think it’s because they are better at anything than anyone else, I just believe that busy people don’t have “round tuits” in their house or in their vocabulary.
Be well my friends.

KayD G.

I’m not waiting for you!

People go to the Internet for one of two reasons:

1) To solve a problem.

Where do I find the cheapest tires for my car?
I wonder if the grocery store up the street is hiring?
How do I stop my dog from barking all night?


2) To be entertained

I want to see the latest video by that new artist.
I missed the last episode of my favorite show.
I missed the paper today and need to read the local news.

Maybe you are like me.  It’s almost guaranteed that I don’t just find what I need and get off the Internet.  With all of the ads and links (bells and whistles), there is a tendency  to click here and there and stay longer than originally planned.  Well, while I’m clicking away so is the click of the clock.  Father Time has told me, “I’m not waiting for you!”

I think this is why some develop what has become known as a mid-life crisis.  And maybe that’s what I’m going through now with this new passion I have for writing the book and this blog  and even already starting the second book.  My co-worker will tell you that even things said throughout the day at work light up in my mind as a potential blog post titles (Hey YJ!).  And I think this blog post came to me because with the recent challenges and joys in my personal life, time has been ticking away and I hadn’t posted anything in a few weeks.  I miss connecting with you.

As we get older, I’m sure you can definitely attest to those moments in life where you’ve looked back and wished you could get the time back or wondered what you would do if you could do it all over again.

Well I’m here to tell you, it’s never too late.  As you know, this blog is all about finding your place of freedom in this world.  I believe that freedom comes with being in line with God’s word and the plan He has for your life.

As I handed the manuscript for the RELOVE book over to the editor a couple of weeks ago, I looked Father Time in the face and laughed.  I will not let another year go by without being published.  I will not let a week go by without exercising (at least once). I will not let a day go by without telling someone in my life that I love them (and that includes my Father in heaven).  I will not let a moment go by that I am anxious for anything or fearful of anything or anybody.

My prayer for you all is that you are able to look at Father Time in the face and laugh.  Let him know although his clock is running, you’re runny right along side.  Let him know as the old saying goes, “time waits for no one”, you can tell time that he’d better catch up with you!!!  And when our time is over, the Father of all time and space will say, “Well done”.

Be well my friends,

KayD G.

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Never Give Up

Everyone loves a good party. Some like to be at the party when it starts so they can find the best spot to sit or stand.  Some like to come in fashionably late and others like to shut the party down and start the after party.  There’s also a group of people out there, and you may be one of them, that never stay until the end of the party.   You always leave just before it’s over. Is that you?   I know a beautiful lady at my church that’s teaching her daughter this latter principle.  (HAHAHA, thanks MM).  So if you one of those kids that was taught you this principle, this relove blog post is for you.

So as I’ve heard it said about what fish and relatives during holidays have in common, they are good for three days and then you need to throw them out.  Thank God, it’s not that way with Him.  God thrives on sticking with you and sticking by you and we should all develop this same attitude.

Persistence is power, and sometimes not taking no for an answer is the right thing, even with God.

There is a perfect example of this in the scripture of the Canaanite woman who came to Jesus to save her demon possessed daughter.

Matthew 15:21-28

21 Leaving that place, Jesus withdrew to the region of Tyre and Sidon. 22 A Canaanite woman from that vicinity came to him, crying out, “Lord, Son of David, have mercy on me! My daughter is demon-possessed and suffering terribly.” 23 Jesus did not answer a word. So his disciples came to him and urged him, “Send her away, for she keeps crying out after us.” 24 He answered, “I was sent only to the lost sheep of Israel.”  25 The woman came and knelt before him. “Lord, help me!” she said.  26 He replied, “It is not right to take the children’s bread and toss it to the dogs.”  27 “Yes it is, Lord,” she said. “Even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their master’s table.”  28 Then Jesus said to her, “Woman, you have great faith!  Your request is granted.” And her daughter was healed at that moment. (NIV)

This unnamed woman approached Jesus with His Messianic title as the Son of David and was persistent with Jesus, even at the expense of perhaps looking and sounding like a fool in front of other people.  Her persistence released her blessing.

In other situations, unlike the parent in the party situation above, it’s good to stay long time.  In 1 Samuel, Hannah, who was unable to have children, went to the temple to pray to God.  As Hannah was pouring her heart out to God, even the man of God thought she was drunk.  But Hannah was persistent with the man of God, saying…

“Oh no, sir—please! I’m a woman hard used. I haven’t been drinking. Not a drop of wine or beer. The only thing I’ve been pouring out is my heart, pouring it out to God. Don’t for a minute think I’m a bad woman. It’s because I’m so desperately unhappy and in such pain that I’ve stayed here so long.” Eli answered her, “Go in peace. And may the God of Israel give you what you have asked of him.” (1 Samuel 1:15-17 MSG)

This woman stayed long in the Master’s house.  And the results were the release of God’s favor over her life.

My prayer today is that you are persistent in the pursuit of what God has already promised in His Word.  Even if you do not see it in your children, aren’t experiencing it on your job and can’t even imagine it in your family life right now, be persistent.  Never Give Up…Persistence is POWER.

Be well, my friends.

KayD G.


The Bear Story

Two men were hiking in the forest when they both saw a bear.  Realizing that the great bear had also seen them, one of the men bent down and began to tie his shoes.  The other man asked, “what are you going, you can’t outrun a bear!”  His fellow hiker exclaimed, “I don’t have to outrun the bear, I only have to outrun you!”

This is a cute, little story and somewhat humorous but it’s also relatively sad.  Sad because that’s exactly our mindset in a great deal of life’s situations.

…to be the #1 student in the class, I don’t have to do my best, I just need to do better than you.

…to get the boss’s attention, I don’t have to create the most widgits, I just need to do create more than you.

…to get the cutest guy or girl, I don’t have to look or act my best, I just need to look or act better than you.

In business, this may be the way things work. And also in certain life situations, this may be the way things work.  But in the Kingdom, it is not.

This reLove blog is about re-thinking.  So let’s re-think this…I don’t have to outrun the bear, I just have to outrun you.  How about…I don’t have to outrun you, I have to run my race and stay in my lane while I’m doing so.  In the Kingdom race, our start times are different and our finish line is not in the same spot.  Mine may be an uphill battle and you may be skating on thin ice.  The crosses we must bear are very different indeed.

Stop trying to compete with people and just run your race.

Don’t try to compete with people, do more to complete people.

You are in a race, but not with your neighbor.  You are in a race of your own.  To be the best you that you can be and give it all you’ve got to worship the Father and to see Him smile.

Be well my friends.

KayD G.

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Hole to Whole

My oldest son has always been afraid of spiders.  Especially the big, hairy, rubber black ones that can be seen around Halloween.  I was sitting and talking with my youngest son the other night and surprisingly, I found out that he is afraid of spiders too. I thought to myself, that’s weird.  To have both of my children afraid of the same thing.

And then I thought deeper still.

A lot of us are afraid of the same things.

About 12 years ago, my sister passed away very unexpectedly.  After breaking a bone in her foot, she developed a blood clot that traveled to her lung. Literally, she was here one day and gone the next.  Before that time, two of my aunts died of blood clot related illnesses and my mother has had multiple lower extremity blood clots through the years.  And then it hit me.  Last year, I developed multiple blood clots in my lungs and one in my leg.   Immediately, horrible thoughts entered into my mind. Thoughts of leaving my husband and my boys behind.  Thoughts of my parents having to go through losing another daughter. And immediately I began to cast these thoughts away from me.

Several things I realized about myself during this time, but one thing is for sure, my worst fear had surfaced in my own life.  And if I had been suppressing these fearful feelings for all of these years, then others in my family had been doing the same.  We were afraid of the same things and that fear had once again manifested in our family.

As I was emailing with a co-worker the other day about her medical issues, I could hear the fear in the words she wrote.   It’s like it jumped off the page at me.  She was afraid of living with the pain, she was afraid the medical procedure she was going to have this week wouldn’t work, she was afraid of not being whole.  I could sympathize with her through all of that because those are some of the things I had felt nearly a year ago.

But here’s the difference.  That Sunday morning when I couldn’t breath, I cried out to the only Person who I knew could help me, my Savior Jesus.  I cried out to Him to save me.  I cried out to Him that I knew He had more work for me to do and that He wouldn’t break the hearts of my parents again by loosing me, now their one and only living child.  I cried out to the One who I knew wouldn’t allow my husband and my children to be without their wife and mother.  I cried out and asked for His help.

On the other hand, when I asked my co-worker if there was anything she wanted me to lift in prayer she responded, “It wouldn’t hurt if you could think of me in your prayers”.  That hurt me.  It was at this moment that I realized that she didn’t know my friend Jesus and that it was up to me to be sure she did.

Some say God created a hole inside each one of us that only He can fill.  Some try to fill it with work, or a girlfriend, or a bottle or money but I know it’s a hole that only He can fill.  He is the only one who can make us whole. After my ordeal with my health issue, I made a decision not to worry about anything ever again.  I may be concerned about something but I will never worry again.  I make a conscious choice to not be anxious for anything but in all things, through prayer and supplication, to let my requests be known to God.  And you know what happens after that?  The peace of God that surpasses what my mind can wrap around and what my lips can find the words to say, will be in my heart and in my mind in Christ Jesus.

My prayer for my co-worker and those like her is not just that her medical procedure is 100% successful but that her mind is renewed about the man named Jesus.  That He alone is able to take her from having a hole to being whole.

You may have someone in your life that you recognize needs to be made whole.  I encourage you to share our Jesus with them today.   And we all have our own fears that we have allowed to make a place in our lives.  I encourage you to find and to expel those fears from your life with the Words of God you know can combat any and everything.

Be well, my friends.

A piece of the Pie

Typically at the beginning of the year prior to the first fruits offering, my church worships through our annual fasting time. And as usual my husband and I participated along with many other members of our great congregation.

And if you have ever taken more than a day to fast and pray and consecrate yourself you begin to realize that you think of all sorts of foods to eat, even foods you don’t normally eat.

pumpkin pie
slice of sweet pumpkin pie




Often times, the mind wanders to unmentionables like chocolate, potato chips, cookies or pie.  Now, I’m not a big pie eating person. I don’t like sweet potato, lemon meringue, keylime or pumpkin pie but I do dabble in a little apple or pecan. Actually I would rather have a cake but that’s not the point here.

My point is, when you have a warm , freshly baked, ready-to-eat pie sitting on the window sill and you finally get a slice of that pie when you take a piece out, you leave a hole in the pie that cannot be replaced.

But when our perfect Father took a piece of himself, created us in His image and in His likeness, there was nothing from Him that was missing, separated, broken, or incomplete.

We can rejoice in the fact that our Father is absolutely perfect. Why would we want to serve a God that is any less?

And just as our perfect Father spoke things into existence like the light and the ocean, we also can speak things into our life.  What is it that you need to speak into your life today? What is it that needs to be pulled down from the spiritual, unseen world into our physical, natural world?  Remember, just as with the creation of man, when we call things from the spiritual unseen realm, we are not leaving a hole.  We are making ourselves whole.   Nothing will missing from heaven, nothing will be broken or incomplete.

Please take some time this week to think about that thing or those things that you need in your life, for the life of your children,  your family,  your friends, in your career, in your finances or in your relationships to help your world be more complete.

You may be thinking, “Sure, God does it for others but He can’t or won’t do it for me”.  Of course He will.  How do you know if you aren’t right on the edge of your blessing?  If you give up or stop the good thing you are doing you will never know.  Kind of like the man whose son was just about to be healed by Jesus. He asked Jesus “If you can heal my son…?” and Jesus’ response was “IF I CAN?” (emphasis mine). Of course the man felt less than worthy after he clearly exposed his unbelief.  And his words after this were, “Jesus,  I believe, but help my unbelief.”

We all have areas of unbelief. Ask your father today to help you with the unbelief and speak God’s word into your atmosphere. Don’t just think about it actually speak it. That’s what God did with the light and the creation of man.  And since we were created in His image and His likeness, that’s what we need to do too.  He’s our pattern.  The first time it may seem a little strange but when you begin to really see results you will know that your words have power beyond your imagination.

whole pies

Don’t allow there to be any pieces of the pie missing in your life, Speak it now. Speak it loud. Speak it proud. Speak it with boldness. Don’t be afraid, you can do it.

Be well my friends.  And may the words you speak bring wholeness into your life.

Be well and be free.

KayD G.


Spring is Here

Spring has sprung.  At least on the calendar.

I live on the East Coast and the weather this last few months has been quite eventful.  If you enjoy the snow you are absolutely loving the weather we’ve had this season.  It’s been super cold and extra snowy.  But if you’re like most of us,  you’re ready this craziness to end.  And I have good news…

Spring has sprung.  

At least on the calendar.

I was walking into work one morning this week  in 23 degree weather and the thought came  to my mind…isn’t it Spring?  Well yes, of course it is.  At least that’s what the calendar says.  And then immediately two questions came to mind…why am I stepping over a mound of snow and why am I freezing?

I KNOW that it’s Spring even though I SEE snow and I FEEL cold.

It was right then that God gave me a revelation. I have to conduct my life very similar to how I handled walking into work that day.  There are things that I have to KNOW, even though I see something or feel something that is contrary to those facts.

I KNOW that if God is for me then who can be against me.  So when my circumstances try to dictate my life, I have to hold on to what I know.

I KNOW that He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, and by His stripes we are healed.  So when I don’t feel well or I received an unfavorable doctor’s report, who’s report will I believe?

I KNOW that when I fall into various trials, that I am to count it all joy because the testing of my faith produces patience.  And when patience has it’s perfect work, I will be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.

What is it you need to KNOW today?  What are you seeing that you need to turn your eyes away from and look to where your help comes from?  What are you feeling that you need to exercise your God given self control to overcome?

Each of us have situations in our lives that our feelings are trying to dictate.  I implore you today to focus on what you KNOW and not what you feel.  You can do it.  And if you don’t yet know that you can, contact me and we’ll work together to find some scriptures to stand on. 

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KayD G

Come Out With Your Hands Up

A few weeks ago, I was watching television with my son. A show came on and the announcer said,  ” And now, in color, The Dating Game”.

Well, I just about fell out of my chair laughing. My son looked quizzically at me. He could not figure out why in the world I was laughing. When I finally got myself together, I told him that it wasn’t the show that had me laughing, or the fact that the first lady came out in a sunshine yellow dress and these horrible shoes, it was the fact that the announcer said in color.

It’s been quite some time since I’ve heard that. I remember the times of black-and-white television. One of the things I remember about that old black-and-white was when my father watched westerns.  Right now, I can’t remember the names of the shows but there was one where the town sheriff was one of the main characters.  Whenever the old stagecoach was robbed or the town saloon, the sheriff would always come on the scene and eventually the bad guys came out with their hands up.

Things haven’t changed that much even now when watching TV, in color, you may hear those famous words, come out with your hands up . And eventually by the end of the show you see the bad guy with hands raised above his head walking out humbly at the command of the sheriff or the police detective. Just like the character Woody in Pixar Films Toy Story series, “Reach for the Sky”.

This  reaching for the sky is the universal sign for surrendering. This sign lets everyone know that you have given up. You are at the mercy of the one in charge. You are under the authority of the one calling you out.

Isn’t it amazing that the universal sign for surrender is also the universal sign for praise and adoration and worship of our Lord and King? But if you think about it, isn’t it the same thing? Letting God know that you surrender to Him and are giving Him complete control. Surrendering to God and letting him know that you were at his mercy and  that you acknowledges His authority over you.

Come out with your hands up today.  For some it’s hard to do. But once you surrender to him it’s the most freeing thing you can do.

Be well and be free my friends.

KayD G

The Dash in the Middle

Imagine a ten gallon bucket filled to the brim with golf balls.  Is the bucket full?

Yes and no.  It’s filled with golf balls but there’s room for more.

Now imagine a huge pitcher full of marbles being poured into the bucket.  The bucket is being shaken for all of the marbles to settle to the bottom.  Is the bucket full?

Yes and no.  It’s filled with golf balls and marbles but there’s room for more.

Now you have a five pound bag of sand.  You’re now scooping the sand into the bucket and watching the sand sift through the golf balls and the marbles until the sand reaches the top.  Is the bucket full?

Yes and no.  It’s filled with golf balls, marbles and sand but there’s room for more.

There’s room for water.  And as you imagine the water filling the bucket, the sand is pressed down and eventually the water will over flow.  Is the bucket full?

Yes it is.  This bucket represents your life.  The important things in life like your family and friends are represented by the golf balls.  Other things that matter like your house and car are represented by the marbles.   The grains of sand are just like a lot of issues in our life, it’s the small stuff. And the water just reminds us that no matter how busy we think we are, if we really need to, if we really press in, we can make room for one more thing.

The moral of this little story is simple.  If we fill our lives with the small stuff we won’t have room for the big stuff.  My friends, please be certain that when the time comes for you to meet Jesus, He will be proud to call you home, certain to say well done and your loved ones left behind will have absolute comfort that you are with Him.

I know a great woman of God who seemingly was always ready and able to make everything fit in her life.  She had her priorities in order and I appreciate our Father God for allowing me the privilege of knowing her and calling her friend.  Her dash in the middle was so full of life and an earnest, steadfast love for the Lord.

KP, you will be sorely missed by so many. You will be sorely missed by me.  I love you girl. And thanks be to God, I’ll see you later.

KayD G

WOW, look at me!

I’m a writer. I never thought of myself as a writer. Although as I now reflect upon my first 20 years of life, I’ve always been a writer. When I was young, it was nothing for me to write down my feelings of extreme emotion like joy or anger or sadness. In fact, I still have some of those writings tucked away.  Maybe I’ll share some one day.

Over ten years ago I began to keep a journal writing my thoughts, fears, prayers. And when my kids were young , I began a journal for each of them journal-ling about their successes, adventures, accidents (ER visits) and some of their failures. My hope with the journals for my kids began as a way for me to write their cutest and most memorable childhood moments to share with them in their future. Maybe to share with the woman they were to marry and then to share with their kids.

Funny to think the class I had the most trouble with in high school was my 11th grade English class.  And it probably wasn’t the class that caused me the most trouble,  it’s probably because my teacher wanted me to write about things I wasn’t interested in. Actually the class that gave me the most trouble was ninth grade biology. I failed it and had to go to summer school.  Anyway…

My prayer for you today is that you take time to examine your life and find the thing you’ve always done.  We were all created for a purpose.  God put you here for a reason.  What you’ve always done is possibly what you continue to be called to do.  

  • If it’s teaching, then teach.
  • If it’s helping people, then help.
  • If it’s encouraging folks, then encourage.
  • If it’s administration, then organize.
  • If it’s talking, then tell someone something positive.
  • If it’s being funny, then spread the gift of laughter.
  • If it’s making sure everyone around you is safe, then work in security.

I realize now that I’ve been called to write.  I thank God for his patience with me while I found this piece of myself. Of course it’s all to give Him glory. I pray this writing here will glorify Him by encouraging you to find His will for your life. To God be the glory for the things that he has done and the way he has revealed Himself in my life.

A popular DJ on our local radio station has made 2014 the year to GET IT DONE.   For me, it’s my year of FOCUS.

What have you been called to?
What is this your year for?
What is your IT in get IT done?

This time next year, I want you to be accomplished in that area of your life.  Next year this time, I want you to be able to look in the mirror and say, “WOW! Look at Me!  I’m a …”

What’s your focus?  Please share it with me.  If you need an accountability partner, this could be your start.  Think about it.  Be well my friends.  Be well.

KayD G