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Inspired to Inspire

This morning on my way to work, I ran into Dawn.  A delightful young, vibrant African-American woman of about 26 or 27 I would say.  She actually reminded me of myself at that age. Not that I’m that much older than 27 but I’ve got a few years on her.

At the start of our conversation in the back of the taxi-cab/slug car, I was just a bit irritated.  Not because she had said anything disrespectful or strange but because I had a lot on my mind from the night before and I hadn’t gotten a lot of sleep.  My plans for the ride to work was to lay my head back and close my eyes.

Dawn was just so excited about what the day would bring.  It was still early yet and dark outside.  The sun had not yet begun to peak through the darkness of night but I could see light in her.  Her energy was infectious.  In our short commute to work, I learned where she worked, not just the agency but the section and actually what type of tasks she performed.  I learned how many children she had, where her child stayed during the day for day care, her educational background, how long she’d owned her car and possibly her next career move.  She briefly mentioned a family member but I didn’t sense that “warm and fuzzy” feeling some folks give off when they speak of their grandma.

I don’t recall how the conversation began but after just a few moments my irritation began to fade away and I also began to share a little about me.  Not nearly as much as Dawn though.  Not because she dominated the conversation but because I’ve learned in my “old age” to be a bit more guarded with the information I divulge about myself and my family.

As she began to tell me about the master’s degree she had and the fact that she wasn’t working in her field of study something sprung up in me to divulge that I had not yet achieved “Master’s Degree” status.  Typically in the past, for whatever reason,  I wouldn’t have said this but for some reason I was prompted to do so.  She actually seemed surprised when I admitted this little fact about myself. Maybe because I had been so guarded in the conversation up to this point.  Or maybe she felt my new level of freedom as I spoke.

It was then that she really began to talk about her qualifications and her desires to do more with her career.   She spoke directly about having applied for several positions, the fact that she was told she was on the “BQ” list but then in the end, the positions weren’t offered to her.   I gave her a few words of inspiration relating to the various career moves I had made and the fact that her gifts will make room for her.  I encouraged her to never give up on her dreams.  I told her about the dream I had one day of becoming a writer and teaching others how to do the same. I reminded her that coming out of the box was often uncomfortable but well worth it.

As our ride was coming to an end, we officially introduced ourselves and I gave her one last word of encouragement. I told her that one day in the next few years, I was certain that our paths would cross again.  I was certain that by that time she would have secured her dream job, her child would be doing great in school and maybe at that time she would have people working for her.  She seemed overjoyed that I took the time to speak into her life.

I pray for Dawn and everyone like her who has dreams of becoming something more than they are today.  And I pray even more for Spirit filled believers who are willing to speak into the lives of those around them to offer words of encouragement even when they are irritated and sleep deprived.

Be well my friend,

Karen Gaughan




This Morning I Repented

Typically when I wake up in the morning, I have a song streaming in my mind. It’s typically a bright song to start my day. Typically my morning song sets the tone for my day. But this morning I had no song. #electionresults #relove

This morning I woke up with a scripture resounding in my head. A scripture that I’ve been told is the exact center of the Word of God. A scripture that for a while was one I stood on frequently. But I hadn’t thought about it in quite some time actually. However, this morning it was brought back to the forefront of my mind.

The scripture I’m referring to is Psalm 118:8.

“It is better to take refuge in the Lord, than to put your trust in man.”

Immediately, I repented.  Turning my face and my heart to the Lord.

I repented for placing even an ounce of trust in man’s ability.

I repented for placing just a thimble full of hope in a person to take ANY sort of lead in my life.

And just as a child of God, knowing He’s not mad at me for making Him too small in my eyes, I turned to Him again and asked God for my morning song.  And because He is so faithful, He gave me “my” song.

So the lyrics that rings in my heart right now?

My hope is built on nothing less
Than Jesus’ blood and righteousness;
I dare not trust the sweetest frame,
But wholly lean on Jesus’ name.
On Christ, the solid Rock, I stand;
All other ground is sinking sand.
All other ground is sinking sand.

My Hope is Built on Nothing Less”, by Edward Mote, 1797-1874


My friends, please know that God is your source, Jesus is our help and the Holy Spirit is our peace.

Be well today!

#electionresults #relove

Christ Did Not Die on the Cross

There are so many questions I have relating to Biblical things.  I don’t think God is disturbed by my questions.  He is not irritated that I continually come to Him wanting to know more about Him.  In fact, He welcomes my questions.  He is pleased that I want to know more about Him and that I’m eager to know more about His will and His ways.

Asking questions, means that we are curious. Asking questions means that we are interested.  Asking questions of God means that He is on our mind and we want to know more about Him and how He operates and why He does things the way He does.  It means we want to know His heart and what makes Him smile.

So when I began asking questions in my mind about Jesus Christ and His humanness, God answered me. And He told me Christ did not die on the cross.

“What”, I said. “Of course He did, I’ve read the Biblical accounts.  I’ve heard countless sermons about how Christ died for my sins.  I can’t be hearing You correctly Father”.

And God reassured me that I did hear Him correctly but that I wasn’t listening. He told me again, and I quote, “Christ did not die on the Cross, JESUS did.”

“Well how could this be Lord?”, I exclaimed!  And here’s how he broke it down to me.

Christ being fully the Son of God.  Jesus being fully the Son of Man.  Christ is the Spirit.  Jesus was the man.  Christ Spirit lives forever.  Jesus the man was the one who hung, bled and died.

He went on further to explain to me that Mary was not the mother of Christ, Mary was the mother of Jesus.  God is the Father of Christ alone.  Mary was needed to birth baby Jesus because Jesus was needed to make Christ (the Spirit) legal on the Earth.

In Genesis 1:26, God gave man dominion over the earth. He did not give spirits dominion over the earth.  Because of this, the Son of God (Christ) could not come to the earth to save us. He needed Jesus as a human in order to have dominion over the earth.

So this is why does the Son refer to Himself as the Son of God AND the Son of Man.  And God answered me in this way.

As I continue to ask questions, it’s amazing how God answers these questions for me.  And I appreciate Him for that  today.

Be well my friends.

KayD G.


Hearing His Voice

First, let me say again Happy New Year to all of you.  God is already doing some amazing things in 2015.  At my church, we are in a time of consecration.  We are removing distractions from our lives at the first part of this year, sitting at the feet of the Master and soaking in wisdom and knowledge and gleaning understanding for what the year will bring.  I thank God for removing me from a Martha-position these last couple of weeks into a Mary-position.  With all of the business of the Christmas season and the end of the year, it’s easy to lose focus of the things that are really important.  I thank God for vision and clarity of mind!

While I’ve been sitting at the feet of the Master, it’s become more clear to me how God speaks to me.  I know often times we wonder if the voice we are hearing is God or the enemy or our own thoughts.  Allow me to share a few of my thoughts on this with you.

God never comes to play games. It’s not that He doesn’t like to laugh and be joyful but He doesn’t play mind games.  He doesn’t toy with us.  He doesn’t come with riddles. He may ask us questions but he never comes contradicting or questioning His Word.

The enemy comes with riddles and games and accusations sometimes like a tape recorder that loops the same words over and over.  He comes with sarcasm.  He comes to make you feel bad.  He comes to distort the Truth of God.  He comes to paint God in a negative light.  He comes with an accusing tone and he comes to discredit God’s Word like he did with Eve when he said to her, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?”

If for no other reason, this is why it’s vitally important for us to know the Word of God.  So when the enemy comes, we will be able to combat his lies with the Truth. We have to know the truth in order to discern a lie.  Please hear me, the old saying, “what you don’t know won’t hurt you” is another lie from the pit of Hell.  What you don’t know will kill you!

Jesus said, “The thief comes only to steal, kill and destroy (John 10:10a).  He wants to steal every ounce of joy you have; he wants to kill your dreams and ambitions; he wants to destroy our marriages and our family relationships and our friendships.  He wants to take away our positive attitudes and outlook on life.

But God finished this verse with Jesus continuing by saying, “I [Jesus] have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” (John 10:10b).  Thank God for Jesus.

When the Holy Spirit speaks to us, He brings clarity to His Word.  He confirms His Word.  He upholds His Word or uses His Word to bring an example to your mind of a person in His Word who may be going through a similar situation as you.  On a personal note, what I’ve found is that when God speaks to me, not only is it comforting and calming and soothing, His voice comes in a complete thought. It’s like He says everything all at once and I completely understand it. And always I can take what He says and find it in His word.

That’s the key to it all…His Word. If there is ever a question as to whether it’s God speaking to you or not, you can check it against His word.  God’s word has all the answers.  His IS the answer.

How does God speak to you?.  Does he speak to you in dreams or visions?  Does he speak to you through pictures or people?  Do you see images in the clouds?  Whatever it is, I would love to hear about it.

Please send your comment and let me know how you discern the voice of God.

Be well my friends.  And God Bless you.

KayD G.

Do you only love me when you like me?

I could stop right there.

Is your love based on your feelings or is your love based on a decision to follow God’s Word that says love the Lord they God with all of your heart, mind and strength and the command to love your neighbor as yourself.  Is your love and what you say about yourself based on His word that you are made in His image?

Do you only love me when you like me?

This applies to your children, your spouse, your friends, your coworkers and yourself.

Remember, relove is all about living free.  You can free yourself by answering this question openly and honestly.

I would love for you to share your thoughts with me.  Leave me a comment and let me know how you plan to grow in this area.

Be well my friends,

KayD G.

My Dream vs My Fear

Is my dream bigger than my fear or is my fear overtaking my ability to try.

Is my dream bigger than my ability to take the leap and try something new.  

Sometimes you have to try new things not knowing how it’s going to work out.

Sometimes you have to open the door and not know what’s on the other side.

Sometimes you have to take the leap and have the faith that your parachute you will open.

If you never try you won’t ever see your dream become a reality.  

If you never try you will never achieve your goal.  

If you never try then you won’t never know if you could have done it or not.

You only fail if you fail to try.

I think you can do it today.  I am for you today.  I’m calling for you today to try. Take one small  step towards your next goal.

Do you realize the pain, and the regret, and the disappointment you will experience if you go through your whole life and never try to make your dreams a reality?  So what if you fail! So what if it doesn’t work out exactly the way you think it should work out!!

If it sounds like I’m a bit fussy today, I guess I am.  Sometimes we need a little push,  sometimes we need a little shove,  sometimes we need a swift kick in the butt to get going.

So get going. Do it now. Get it done. You can do it! I believe in you.  This is not a test of the emergency broadcast system.  This is real.  This is your life.  You only have one chance to live it. 

Do not let fear, the false evidence appearing real, that the enemy tries to present to overtake you. I am so passionate about this today. My heart is breaking for you.  

Did you know that there will be tears in heaven?  Those are going to be tears of regret. When we get to heaven and the Father shows us all we could have been will you feel proud of yourself or will you cry tears of regret.   If only we weren’t afraid to step out and take a chance. If only we would have tried.  It only takes a little extra to be above ordinary.  Trying and failing is always better than not trying at all.

The last thing I want is for you to get to heaven with a parachute that never opened because you were too afraid to jump.  I encourage you to take the leap.  

Get It Done.  

Be well my friends.

KayD G. (letting my Son-light shine)


The Real McCoy

I received this comment on my page a little while ago and I want you to read it.

It said, “I see a lot of interesting articles on your page. You have to spend a lot of time writing, i know how to save you a lot of time, there is a tool that creates unique, google friendly posts in couple of seconds, just search in google…” and it went on to provide me with the website.

Just for bumps and giggles, I did a search on this particular site and one of the first things the site proclaimed was “You don’t have to lose many hours writning content on your blog, you can rewrite articles from other sites and pass copyscape test. Google will love your new unique articles and you will have unlimited content and Google friendly posts for your webpage.”

Now truly if someone saw a lot of “interesting articles” on my page, and they truly read them, they would know that I am in no way, shape or form, writing so I can have Google friendly posts on my webpage and unlimited articles while copywriting.

I am absolutely appalled.

RELOVE is about freedom.  RELOVE is about the Truth.  RELOVE is original and provides thought provoking content that our Creator has deposited in my spirit.  I am determined to be a free flowing river, where He can deposit items into me and I can pass them along.  I have vowed to Him never to be a “dead sea” or a hoarder of what He has deposited in me.

My prayer is that my reader base will increase because God has decided to use me as His vessel not because I’ve copied something someone poured their heart into (or copy something someone else copied).

How can I talk about freedom if I were to put myself in bondage by lying to my readers and passing off copywrited content as my own?  I’m the real McCoy and I pray that all areas of our lives would be genuine and pure and unique.

I pray that you all are blessed today.  Be well, my friends.

KayD G.

What in the World???

What in the world? What in the world? That's a loaded question. When I was in seventh or eighth grade I took a drama class. I remember because there was a girl in my class named Holly who was one of the best actress I knew. And she was so funny. The things that she said and the way she said them were just phenomenal. So today I want to visit how Holly might say these words, what in the world?

What in the world is going on? What in the world is happening? What in the world are you doing? I think of these things when a parent walks into the bedroom of their pre-teen and it's an absolute mess. It's easy to say what in the world is going on? When we look at the news and we see some of the devastation or the acts of terror it's easy for us to blurt out, what in the world is happening?

And just as easily said or rather asked, is the question what in the world are you doing? When you stumble upon someone and there may be standing on their head in an awkward position or trying to cook something new and the kitchen is an absolute mess.

But let's take these questions from a spiritual standpoint and ask them again. 

What in the world is going on here?

What in the world is happening? 

What in the world are you watching?

On the one hand to hear these words it's just a simple question. But looking at it from another side, looking at it with spiritual eyes, 
these questions are profound. These questions are thought provoking. And these are questions that we must ask ourselves as believers in the one true and living God.

We cannot stand by any longer and let our nation and our world go to hell in a handbasket because we do not do anything we just stand by and ask the questions. 

We must be doers. We must be doers of the word. We must be doers of something.

I know the Lord hears my heart. I know the Lord hears my passion. I know the Lord hears my prayer. But he also must see me doing something. 

Now here's one more question that I'm sure you heard asked and now let's ask it. What in the world are you doing for heaven's sake?

I can't answer that question for you. Only you can take a deep look inside yourself to ask what in this world you are doing today for the sake of heaven. What in the world are you doing right now that His kingdom will come and that His will be done on earth as it is in heaven. 

Now this time when you read ask the question read the words very slowly . What in the world am I doing for heavens sake?

We want to hear him say well done, right? Then let's get to work. 

As always, please leave a comment to tell the world what you think is going on in this world.  Or you can tell the world what you are doing to make it better.  

Be well, my friends. 

KayD G.

The Bear Story

Two men were hiking in the forest when they both saw a bear.  Realizing that the great bear had also seen them, one of the men bent down and began to tie his shoes.  The other man asked, “what are you going, you can’t outrun a bear!”  His fellow hiker exclaimed, “I don’t have to outrun the bear, I only have to outrun you!”

This is a cute, little story and somewhat humorous but it’s also relatively sad.  Sad because that’s exactly our mindset in a great deal of life’s situations.

…to be the #1 student in the class, I don’t have to do my best, I just need to do better than you.

…to get the boss’s attention, I don’t have to create the most widgits, I just need to do create more than you.

…to get the cutest guy or girl, I don’t have to look or act my best, I just need to look or act better than you.

In business, this may be the way things work. And also in certain life situations, this may be the way things work.  But in the Kingdom, it is not.

This reLove blog is about re-thinking.  So let’s re-think this…I don’t have to outrun the bear, I just have to outrun you.  How about…I don’t have to outrun you, I have to run my race and stay in my lane while I’m doing so.  In the Kingdom race, our start times are different and our finish line is not in the same spot.  Mine may be an uphill battle and you may be skating on thin ice.  The crosses we must bear are very different indeed.

Stop trying to compete with people and just run your race.

Don’t try to compete with people, do more to complete people.

You are in a race, but not with your neighbor.  You are in a race of your own.  To be the best you that you can be and give it all you’ve got to worship the Father and to see Him smile.

Be well my friends.

KayD G.

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