My church is so wonderful. I remember when we moved into our first church building. It was so new and exciting. The church leadership planned a marriage conference as the first church event to take place. Advertisements were done in print and on radio. Registration fees were paid in advance. As with many new construction projects there were a few delays. We had received our occupancy permit but not all of the finishing touches were complete. We moved forward with our conference. The building was packed full of anticipation. Couples were literally on the edge of their seats waiting for the next words to be uttered. And as I looked around, I don’t think anyone noticed that there was not a drop of paint on the walls. I know I didn’t care.
After this event, one of the first outside events advertised in our church that my husband and I attended was another marriage conference sponsored by a very popular, nationwide family ministry. It was held in a hotel about 25 miles away from where we lived. I thank God for both these times to be renewed in our marriage. My husband and I still have the notes we took during the first conference and the handouts and “marriage certificate” we received when we completed the second.
The first relationship on the earth was one between God and Adam, but marriage is the first relationship between two people in the earth. I know now that my Bishop holds marriage in high esteem. He honored the marriage relationship and knew that if our church was to be great, the relationships in the church, particularly the marriage relationship had to be great.
In our church, our Bishop often encourages us when reading a book to look for that one nugget of truth that will change your life. I’ve learned to do this not only when reading a book but in many different life situations, including any conference I attend.
The one nugget of truth I learned from one of the marriage conferences was this…
look past the creation and look to the Creator.
Whether it’s at home, work, church or on the road, when I have a conflict I try desperately to look past the creation and look to the Creator.
It may not happen right away but I’m working on that piece. I try to take the time time and look past any person I have a conflict with and take the time to look to the Creator of that person.
When I look to the Creator, I look into the face of LOVE.
If I take a time and talk to the Creator, I’m communicating with LOVE.
When we look to Love and when we communicate with Love, we have no choice but to respond in and with Love. We have all had times when we have failed miserably at these tests of conflict and there have been times where we’ve passed these tests with flying colors. Very rarely though do both parties pass the test at the same time. At least that’s true in my life. My week has been choked full of these moments. Some times I passed the test and other times I’ve failed.
We must remember, just because you think you’ve done and said everything just right, take a good look in the mirror and ask yourself if you’ve done and said everything right but also have you said and done everything right with the right Spirit (motives and intentions) behind it.
We would all like to hear about a recent time where you passed a test such as this or when you failed but were able to regain your footing and learn a lesson for the next time. Will you share your experience and insight to help someone in a similar situation? You don’t have to share your name but your trial may help someone else through their test.
Be well my friends.