Category Archives: GOD

Conflict? Look to the Creator

My church is so wonderful.  I remember when we moved into our first church building.  It was so new and exciting.  The church leadership planned a marriage conference as the first church event to take place.  Advertisements were done in print and on radio.  Registration fees were paid in advance.  As with many new construction projects there were a few delays.  We had received our occupancy permit but not all of the finishing touches were complete.  We moved forward with our conference.   The building was packed full of anticipation.  Couples were literally on the  edge of their seats waiting for the next words to be uttered.  And as I looked around, I don’t think anyone noticed that there was not a drop of paint on the walls. I know I didn’t care.

After this event, one of the first outside events advertised in our church that my husband and I attended was another marriage conference sponsored by a very popular, nationwide family ministry.  It was held in a hotel about 25 miles away from where we lived.  I thank God for both these times to be renewed in our marriage.  My husband and I still have the notes we took during the first conference and the handouts and “marriage certificate” we received when we completed the second.

The first relationship on the earth was one between God and Adam, but marriage is the first relationship between two people in the earth.  I know now that my Bishop holds marriage in high esteem.  He honored the marriage relationship and knew that if our church was to be great, the relationships in the church, particularly the marriage relationship had to be great. 

In our church, our Bishop often encourages us when reading a book to look for that one nugget of truth that will change your life.  I’ve learned to do this not only when reading a book but in many different life situations, including any conference I attend.

The one nugget of truth I learned from one of the marriage  conferences was this…
look past the creation and look to the Creator.

Whether it’s at home, work, church or on the road, when I have a conflict I try desperately to look past the creation and look to the Creator.

It may not happen right away but I’m working on that piece.  I try to take the time time and look past any person I have a conflict with and take the time to look to the Creator of that person.

When I look to the Creator, I look into the face of LOVE.

If I take a time and talk to the Creator, I’m communicating with LOVE.

When we look to Love and when we communicate with Love, we have no choice but to respond in and with Love.  We have all had times when we have failed miserably at these tests of conflict and there have been times where we’ve passed these tests with flying colors. Very rarely though do both parties pass the test at the same time.  At least that’s true in my life.  My week has been choked full of these moments.  Some times I passed the test and other times I’ve failed.

We must remember, just because you think you’ve done and said everything just right, take a good look in the mirror and ask yourself if you’ve done and said everything right but also have you said and done everything right with the right Spirit (motives and intentions) behind it.

We would all like to hear about a recent time where you passed a test such as this or when you failed but were able to regain your footing and learn a lesson for the next time. Will you share your experience and insight to help someone in a similar situation?  You don’t have to share your name but your trial may help someone else through their test.

Be well my friends.

Too Many Questions

Over the past year or so, God has been amazing at providing me with answers to some questions I have.  Typically it’s something that doesn’t mean a hill of beans to anyone else but simply something I’m curious about. I have many questions for God when I get to heaven.  I’m sure you do too.

A few of my questions revolve around our senses.

When we close our eyes, we cannot see.  Is that because 2 Corinthians says “for we live by faith and not by sight”?  But when we try to shut out sound by closing our ears, why can’t we do that?  Is it because Romans tells us that “faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word about Christ”?

People say that we have two ears and one mouth because we should listen twice as much as we talk.  Ok, I can get with that one but is that the reason why?

Maybe I have too many questions.  Like, since we have command over the earth, why can we not fly like the birds and swim underwater for in definite periods of time?  Scientists say they are discovering new creatures all the time, how many different creatures are there?  Ok, here’s one…what day was Jesus really born? And then of course there’s the age old question, “Why do bad things happen to good people?” 

All are good questions and one day they will all be answered. But for now, we continue to ponder these things.

What questions do you have for God?  Please leave your question in the comment section.  I’m sure God will hear you. And I’m certain, in time, He will answer.

Be well my friends.

I talked to God today

I talked to God today and he told me that this day is not about you.  He said,

This day is about your spouse.  This day is about your children.  This day is about your parents. This day is about your best friend. This day is about the guy in the car beside you. This day is about the woman down the hall in cubicle number four.

So when your spouse ignores you and our children are ungrateful and your parents don’t remember your name and your friend doesn’t call and the guy cuts you off and the woman lies on you, don’t fret. This day is not about you, God said, It’s about Me.

He said, You were created to praise Me. You were created to worship Me. You were created for Me. So count it all joy, rejoice in Me always, know that there is nothing too big for Me, know that I hear your heart when you put all of your hope and trust in Me. Know there is nothing too hard for Me. Know that with Me all things are possible. Know that I have plans for you, to prosper you and to give you a hope and a future.

When you talk directly to Love itself, what you get back is just that…LOVE.  LOVE is your bridegroom. LOVE is your friend. LOVE is your father.  LOVE will guide your footsteps and keep you in perfect peace. 

Did you talk to God today? What did LOVE say to you? Your comment may just be the one thing someone else needs to read today to make it through.

Be well my friends. All is well with God.  And when you are in Him all is well with you.

Uncommon Resolution 2014

The ten most common New Year’s resolutions are

  1. to get fit (lose weight)
  2. eat healthier
  3. quit smoking
  4. get organized (better time management)
  5. spend more time with family
  6. save money or get out of debt
  7. travel to new places
  8. learn something new
  9. volunteer more
  10. live life

Sound familiar? In the past 10 years, how many times have you said you would commit to at least a few of these resolutions?  But is it really 10 different resolutions?  Take another look.

  1. As you set your mind to getting fit, no doubt that includes eating healthier and quitting smoking, right?
  2. As you get organized, you are better able to manage your time so spending quality family time won’t be a problem anymore.
  3. Certainly as you save money, you are able to take some of that money to travel to new places or take a class and learn something new.
  4. And since you’re saving money, you can take more of your money and donate it to a worthy cause or better yet, you and your family members (now that you’re spending more time together) can volunteer at your local community center or homeless shelter.
  5. Now that’s living life!!!

Now that we’re down to only a few resolutions instead of an entire list, let’s add one more (teehee).  Probably the most important one anyway.

How about resolving to love more?

Isn’t that what the other resolutions were about anyway?  You love yourself, so you want to get fit, eat healthier and quit smoking. You love your family, so you want to save money so you can provide for their future and/or travel together and spend quality time. You love your community, so to volunteer more is just par for the course.

Galatians 5:22 tells us “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.”

It all starts with love.  It always has and always will.  Love is the Alpha.  Love to self-control.  It starts with Him but it ends with you.

For me, I wanna love more than before.  I wanna worship the Father deeper than before (thanks Eddie James for putting my feelings to song).

I implore you to really think about it. What or who is it that you want to love more?  What or who is it that you need to love again?  Relove Jesus?  Relove Others?  Relove Yourself? How ‘bout you join me with this uncommon resolution to love more?  To reLOVE if you will.

I can’t be the accountability partner to all of you but I do know that the Word (Hab 2:2) and the world tells us that if we write down a goal or your plan, or a resolution and make it plain, we are more likely to follow through. Leave a comment here and tell the world.  Let’s start a reLOVE Revolution. Be well.

JOY Junkie
aka KayD G.

What is reLOVE?

What is reLOVE?

There’s an old saying, “It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”. While this may be true, having loved and lost creates a void or a broken place in us that often requires lots of time to mend.  Once you’ve loved and lost, there is a fear that tries to set in that tells you if you love that way again, then you will lose again.

Not true. But it’s hard to combat those thoughts when they invade your mind. That’s where the art of reLOVE-ing comes in.  So let’s define reLOVE.

Here’s one of the definitions of “re” (Source: The Free Online Dictionary)

a prefix; an action done over, often with the implication that the outcome of the original action was in some way impermanent or inadequate, or that the performance of the new action brings back an earlier state of affairs

WOW.  I couldn’t have said it better myself.  Now for that big word some fear:  LOVE.

There are so many definitions of LOVE.  Too many to list here but let’s try a few.
(Source:  Multiple)

1:  strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties <maternal love for a child. 2:  warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion <love of the sea>3:  the object of attachment, devotion, or admiration<baseball was his first love> 4:  a beloved person:  darling —often used as a term of endearment (2) British —used as an informal term of address deep euphoric feeling for someone. 5: a person’s adoration of God. 6:  a score of zero (as in tennis)

Now for the real definition of LOVE from the only SOURCE that matters:

God is LOVE

1 John 4:7-18 (NIV) tells us where love comes from and what love is…

7 Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 9 This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. 10 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11 Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12 No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.

13 This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit.14 And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. 15 If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God. 16 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us.

God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17 This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

 There you have it.
With all of those things multiplied together, to relove is the action of bringing back the original state of affairs on what was impermanent or inadequate the first time around.  To love at the place before the fear of lose or hurt set in.
Or in a nutshell to love again. 

We’ve all been broken.  We’ve all been hurt.  But you can learn to love again. To relove God (Jesus) again, to relove others again and to relove yourself again.  As famous poem by Crystal Boyd tells us (in part)

    • Work like you don’t need money
    • Love like you’ve never been hurt
    • And dance like no one is watching

I’m certain at least one thing entered your mind based on your life experience and how you define love and how you’ve experienced loss.  Let us know what you think .  You never know, the thoughts you share may rejuvenate someone else.  The words you say may renew someone’s mind or provide the refreshing they need to make it through another day.

Leave a comment and let’s take this relove journey to freedom together.  Be well.