Category Archives: Friends

The Bear Story

Two men were hiking in the forest when they both saw a bear.  Realizing that the great bear had also seen them, one of the men bent down and began to tie his shoes.  The other man asked, “what are you going, you can’t outrun a bear!”  His fellow hiker exclaimed, “I don’t have to outrun the bear, I only have to outrun you!”

This is a cute, little story and somewhat humorous but it’s also relatively sad.  Sad because that’s exactly our mindset in a great deal of life’s situations.

…to be the #1 student in the class, I don’t have to do my best, I just need to do better than you.

…to get the boss’s attention, I don’t have to create the most widgits, I just need to do create more than you.

…to get the cutest guy or girl, I don’t have to look or act my best, I just need to look or act better than you.

In business, this may be the way things work. And also in certain life situations, this may be the way things work.  But in the Kingdom, it is not.

This reLove blog is about re-thinking.  So let’s re-think this…I don’t have to outrun the bear, I just have to outrun you.  How about…I don’t have to outrun you, I have to run my race and stay in my lane while I’m doing so.  In the Kingdom race, our start times are different and our finish line is not in the same spot.  Mine may be an uphill battle and you may be skating on thin ice.  The crosses we must bear are very different indeed.

Stop trying to compete with people and just run your race.

Don’t try to compete with people, do more to complete people.

You are in a race, but not with your neighbor.  You are in a race of your own.  To be the best you that you can be and give it all you’ve got to worship the Father and to see Him smile.

Be well my friends.

KayD G.

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The Dash in the Middle

Imagine a ten gallon bucket filled to the brim with golf balls.  Is the bucket full?

Yes and no.  It’s filled with golf balls but there’s room for more.

Now imagine a huge pitcher full of marbles being poured into the bucket.  The bucket is being shaken for all of the marbles to settle to the bottom.  Is the bucket full?

Yes and no.  It’s filled with golf balls and marbles but there’s room for more.

Now you have a five pound bag of sand.  You’re now scooping the sand into the bucket and watching the sand sift through the golf balls and the marbles until the sand reaches the top.  Is the bucket full?

Yes and no.  It’s filled with golf balls, marbles and sand but there’s room for more.

There’s room for water.  And as you imagine the water filling the bucket, the sand is pressed down and eventually the water will over flow.  Is the bucket full?

Yes it is.  This bucket represents your life.  The important things in life like your family and friends are represented by the golf balls.  Other things that matter like your house and car are represented by the marbles.   The grains of sand are just like a lot of issues in our life, it’s the small stuff. And the water just reminds us that no matter how busy we think we are, if we really need to, if we really press in, we can make room for one more thing.

The moral of this little story is simple.  If we fill our lives with the small stuff we won’t have room for the big stuff.  My friends, please be certain that when the time comes for you to meet Jesus, He will be proud to call you home, certain to say well done and your loved ones left behind will have absolute comfort that you are with Him.

I know a great woman of God who seemingly was always ready and able to make everything fit in her life.  She had her priorities in order and I appreciate our Father God for allowing me the privilege of knowing her and calling her friend.  Her dash in the middle was so full of life and an earnest, steadfast love for the Lord.

KP, you will be sorely missed by so many. You will be sorely missed by me.  I love you girl. And thanks be to God, I’ll see you later.

KayD G
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Happy LOVE day

Happy Valentine’s Day!?!  This is the day we celebrate the ones we love.  When my kids were young, I took special care to present them with a basket of goodies with their favorite action figures, a few treats or maybe a new movie.  And of course my husband and I always do something special.  But do we really know why we treat this day as so special? Do we know why Valentines day is celebrated and who St. Valentine is?

From what I’ve researched, St. Valentine was a priest in a time when the emperor Claudius was persecuting the church.   Scholars don’t know much of his early years but do know that he was passionate about Christian marriage. You see, Emperor Claudius had outlawed marriage and  Valentine secretly married people despite the emperors edict.   When he was caught, Valentine was thrown into prison and from prison wrote “love letters” to a certain blind woman he was fond of.  After his three part execution of beating, stoning and finally beheading, stories are told of the miraculous healing of the young blind woman. She was finally able to read the love letters signed, “from your Valentine“.

As thinking people who live in a time not too far removed from slavery and segregation, we know that often times the persecution and our stand for what we believe in will leave a mark on history.

On this Valentines day, my hope is that, like Valentine, we all take a stand for Love. In a time when the world encourages immoral behavior, glorifies hate and even promotes revenge that we take a stand for what we believe in…Love.

If that means either

a.  turning the other check
b.  walking the extra mile
c.  praying for your enemies
d.  doing something good for “your haters” today or
e.  all of the above

then so be it.

I’m determined to make my mark on history.  I wholeheartedly believe in the Power Of One.  A part of the reason for this blog is to spread a bit of love with each post.  It doesn’t have to be a book or a blog or a blast email, but I encourage you to do something to show LOVE today.

Feel free to leave me a comment to let me know what you are doing to show love today, whether it’s to your friend, spouse, children or something special you’re doing for yourself or the world.  Your comments could encourage someone else to spread love as well.

Be well, my friends.

KayD G

 

What is reLOVE?

What is reLOVE?

There’s an old saying, “It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”. While this may be true, having loved and lost creates a void or a broken place in us that often requires lots of time to mend.  Once you’ve loved and lost, there is a fear that tries to set in that tells you if you love that way again, then you will lose again.

Not true. But it’s hard to combat those thoughts when they invade your mind. That’s where the art of reLOVE-ing comes in.  So let’s define reLOVE.

Here’s one of the definitions of “re” (Source: The Free Online Dictionary)

a prefix; an action done over, often with the implication that the outcome of the original action was in some way impermanent or inadequate, or that the performance of the new action brings back an earlier state of affairs

WOW.  I couldn’t have said it better myself.  Now for that big word some fear:  LOVE.

There are so many definitions of LOVE.  Too many to list here but let’s try a few.
(Source:  Multiple)

1:  strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties <maternal love for a child. 2:  warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion <love of the sea>3:  the object of attachment, devotion, or admiration<baseball was his first love> 4:  a beloved person:  darling —often used as a term of endearment (2) British —used as an informal term of address deep euphoric feeling for someone. 5: a person’s adoration of God. 6:  a score of zero (as in tennis)

Now for the real definition of LOVE from the only SOURCE that matters:

God is LOVE

1 John 4:7-18 (NIV) tells us where love comes from and what love is…

7 Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 9 This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. 10 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11 Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12 No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.

13 This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit.14 And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. 15 If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God. 16 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us.

God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17 This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

 There you have it.
With all of those things multiplied together, to relove is the action of bringing back the original state of affairs on what was impermanent or inadequate the first time around.  To love at the place before the fear of lose or hurt set in.
Or in a nutshell to love again. 

We’ve all been broken.  We’ve all been hurt.  But you can learn to love again. To relove God (Jesus) again, to relove others again and to relove yourself again.  As famous poem by Crystal Boyd tells us (in part)

    • Work like you don’t need money
    • Love like you’ve never been hurt
    • And dance like no one is watching

I’m certain at least one thing entered your mind based on your life experience and how you define love and how you’ve experienced loss.  Let us know what you think .  You never know, the thoughts you share may rejuvenate someone else.  The words you say may renew someone’s mind or provide the refreshing they need to make it through another day.

Leave a comment and let’s take this relove journey to freedom together.  Be well.