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Uncommon Resolution 2014

The ten most common New Year’s resolutions are

  1. to get fit (lose weight)
  2. eat healthier
  3. quit smoking
  4. get organized (better time management)
  5. spend more time with family
  6. save money or get out of debt
  7. travel to new places
  8. learn something new
  9. volunteer more
  10. live life

Sound familiar? In the past 10 years, how many times have you said you would commit to at least a few of these resolutions?  But is it really 10 different resolutions?  Take another look.

  1. As you set your mind to getting fit, no doubt that includes eating healthier and quitting smoking, right?
  2. As you get organized, you are better able to manage your time so spending quality family time won’t be a problem anymore.
  3. Certainly as you save money, you are able to take some of that money to travel to new places or take a class and learn something new.
  4. And since you’re saving money, you can take more of your money and donate it to a worthy cause or better yet, you and your family members (now that you’re spending more time together) can volunteer at your local community center or homeless shelter.
  5. Now that’s living life!!!

Now that we’re down to only a few resolutions instead of an entire list, let’s add one more (teehee).  Probably the most important one anyway.

How about resolving to love more?

Isn’t that what the other resolutions were about anyway?  You love yourself, so you want to get fit, eat healthier and quit smoking. You love your family, so you want to save money so you can provide for their future and/or travel together and spend quality time. You love your community, so to volunteer more is just par for the course.

Galatians 5:22 tells us “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.”

It all starts with love.  It always has and always will.  Love is the Alpha.  Love to self-control.  It starts with Him but it ends with you.

For me, I wanna love more than before.  I wanna worship the Father deeper than before (thanks Eddie James for putting my feelings to song).

I implore you to really think about it. What or who is it that you want to love more?  What or who is it that you need to love again?  Relove Jesus?  Relove Others?  Relove Yourself? How ‘bout you join me with this uncommon resolution to love more?  To reLOVE if you will.

I can’t be the accountability partner to all of you but I do know that the Word (Hab 2:2) and the world tells us that if we write down a goal or your plan, or a resolution and make it plain, we are more likely to follow through. Leave a comment here and tell the world.  Let’s start a reLOVE Revolution. Be well.

JOY Junkie
aka KayD G.

What is reLOVE?

What is reLOVE?

There’s an old saying, “It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”. While this may be true, having loved and lost creates a void or a broken place in us that often requires lots of time to mend.  Once you’ve loved and lost, there is a fear that tries to set in that tells you if you love that way again, then you will lose again.

Not true. But it’s hard to combat those thoughts when they invade your mind. That’s where the art of reLOVE-ing comes in.  So let’s define reLOVE.

Here’s one of the definitions of “re” (Source: The Free Online Dictionary)

a prefix; an action done over, often with the implication that the outcome of the original action was in some way impermanent or inadequate, or that the performance of the new action brings back an earlier state of affairs

WOW.  I couldn’t have said it better myself.  Now for that big word some fear:  LOVE.

There are so many definitions of LOVE.  Too many to list here but let’s try a few.
(Source:  Multiple)

1:  strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties <maternal love for a child. 2:  warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion <love of the sea>3:  the object of attachment, devotion, or admiration<baseball was his first love> 4:  a beloved person:  darling —often used as a term of endearment (2) British —used as an informal term of address deep euphoric feeling for someone. 5: a person’s adoration of God. 6:  a score of zero (as in tennis)

Now for the real definition of LOVE from the only SOURCE that matters:

God is LOVE

1 John 4:7-18 (NIV) tells us where love comes from and what love is…

7 Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 9 This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. 10 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11 Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12 No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.

13 This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit.14 And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. 15 If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God. 16 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us.

God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17 This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

 There you have it.
With all of those things multiplied together, to relove is the action of bringing back the original state of affairs on what was impermanent or inadequate the first time around.  To love at the place before the fear of lose or hurt set in.
Or in a nutshell to love again. 

We’ve all been broken.  We’ve all been hurt.  But you can learn to love again. To relove God (Jesus) again, to relove others again and to relove yourself again.  As famous poem by Crystal Boyd tells us (in part)

    • Work like you don’t need money
    • Love like you’ve never been hurt
    • And dance like no one is watching

I’m certain at least one thing entered your mind based on your life experience and how you define love and how you’ve experienced loss.  Let us know what you think .  You never know, the thoughts you share may rejuvenate someone else.  The words you say may renew someone’s mind or provide the refreshing they need to make it through another day.

Leave a comment and let’s take this relove journey to freedom together.  Be well.